Some ace-community and aro-community terms I don’t use, why I don’t use them, and some alternative terms
acephobia, asexualphobia, and other variations on *phobia (to describe an ideology of prejudice against ace-spectrum people)
- The power of these terms relies on an implicit association of “mentally ill” and “violent,” which is harmful to people (including aces) with mental illnesses. Source.
- Alternatives: anti-asexual prejudice, anti-ace prejudice, anti-demi prejudice (if demisexual-specific), alisexism, consexism.
sexuals (in reference to people who experience sexual attraction without a requirement of having a pre-existing nonsexual attraction or pre-existing interpersonal relationship/bond)
- Sexual abuse and assault survivors have objected to this terminology on grounds that it may implicitly assume that experiencing sexual attraction in general means “ready for sex at any time,” which is a misconception some asexual people have about people who are not asexual.
- Various POC have objected to this term on the grounds that it potentially contributes to racist stereotypes of sexuality of POC, including but not limited to the hypersexualization of WOC.
- Alternatives: alisexual, consexual.
- I am asexual and I honestly don’t think privilege and disprivilege are a model that works to explain what asexual people experience when they encounter anti-asexual prejudice. Source link 1, source link 2, source link 3, source link 4.
- I don’t have an alternative for this term, because I don’t think alisexual privilege exists.
- See above comment re: privilege.
- Variations of “X supremacy” have been taken from the term “white supremacy,” which some POC have identified as appropriative of antiracist terminology.
- Prejudice against asexual-spectrum people does not work in the same manner as racism. White supremacy does not and cannot cause any harm to white people, whereas prejudice against asexual-spectrum people can hurt allosexual/consexual people—so “supremacy” is an inadequate word to describe anti-asexual prejudice.
- Alternatives: systematic alisexism, systematic consexism.
- I am an aromantic asexual person, and I don’t know if a privilege/disprivilege dynamic adequately accounts for the phenomenon of prejudice against asexual-spectrum people and aromantic-spectrum people.
- See above re: “supremacy” terminology.
- Alternative: Amatonormativity, a term introduced in a recently published book, refers to the ideology that everyone should desire or does desire a single romantic-sexual relationship, and that that one relationship is or should be the most important relationship in a person’s life.
- Alternatives: Romantism (coined by my best friend, who is an aromantic bisexual person) and romantic elitism describe the ideology that experiencing romantic attraction is better than not experiencing it, and that romantic relationships are closer, more intimate, more valid or better than nonromantic relationships. A person subscribing to romantism is a romantist.
This entry was published on 22 August 2012 and has 26 note(s).
It was tagged: asexual community, asexuality, asexual, acephobia, allosexism, actuallyasexual, amatonormativity, aromantic, sexual supremacy, sexual privilege, allosexual privilege, alisexual privilege, romantic privilege, alisexism,