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I’ve also noted that some gay men seem to be the most suspicious of asexual people. This is partially understandable because gay men, of course, are also part of the high testosterone brood—men. But there may be other reasons as well. First, openly gay people, especially those with a bit of seasoning in the sexual marketplace, are often astute enough to know that people claiming one sexual identity (e.g., “I am bisexual,” “I am heterosexual”) at one point in their lives may “come out” as gay years later. I, too, do not discount the possibility that some asexual people, or those who identify as such, might be gay people in waiting, although I suspect that this does not apply to the majority of asexual people.

An additional reason why some gay men may be opposed to accepting a 1 percent (or more) prevalence rate may concern justice sensitivity. Gay and lesbian people have often fought hard for the right to be accepted in Western society as a visible minority. Thus, although most gays and lesbians seem very accepting of sexual variations, some may be justifiably sensitive to issues related to their own rights and recognition. Now there is a new kid on the block, perhaps encroaching on their hard-fought and hard-won space. Does yet another sexual minority in some way diminish the status of the original sexual minority group? Perhaps some gays and lesbians believe so, if only on an implicit level. Relatedly, I expect that all humans, as social psychologists have argued, have a tendency to dislike the “out-group” and, sadly and concomitantly, to force to the back of the metaphorical bus ever more marginalized groups, even among those who believe that they themselves are near the back of the bus already.

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Understanding Asexuality, from chapter 4

In which Dr. Anthony Bogaert conjectures about why the members of the anti-ace brigade (made up predominantly of queer allosexual/consexual people) hate us so much.

(via metapianycist)

Whoa. Huh.

I have a couple of thoughts about this, but I note that Dr. Bogaert seems to understand how to recognize the possibility that a small proportion of self-identified aces may not be “really” asexual, or asexual their whole lives, without trashing asexuality as a whole.

(via greenchestnuts)

Yes! :D I also note that in the chapter, he’s talking about cis people’s testosterone mainly but I like that he used phrases like “most men have more testosterone, on average, than most women” so that he was being almost trans inclusive. It’s a lot better than what generally gets said about “men’s and women’s bodies” in literature.

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