There seems to be this common misconception that experiencing libido without experiencing sexual attraction, or liking sex without experiencing sexual attraction, is the definition of gray asexuality.
As an asexual person who experiences libido and likes some sexual activities, please stop equating attraction with behavior and labeling me without my consent.
My behavior doesn’t make my asexuality gray. Gray asexuality is about experiencing gray-sexual attraction, or experiencing sexual attraction very infrequently. The first three bullet points on AVENwiki’s Gray-A page describe people who experience some kind of sexual attraction, and the fourth bullet point seems to be describing demisexual people—who also experience sexual attraction.
Only the individual in question can decide whether or not they are a gray-asexual person because behavior is not attraction. I know I’m not gray asexual because I know I don’t experience sexual attraction. So stop spreading the misconception that all asexual people who aren’t sex-repulsed nonlibidoists are automatically gray asexual, because that is not true.
- your friendly neighborhood libidoist ace who likes many sexual activities
P.S. Repulsed aces and nonlibidoist aces are not ”more asexual” than other asexuals by virtue of sex repulsion or nonlibidoism either. The facts that I masturbate and that I like some sexual stuff don’t make me any less asexual than any other asexual person.