can people please stop with the lesbians not liking dick = transmisogyny or gender essentialism (lol you clearly don’t know what that means) mentality because that is lesbophobic as fuck
Nope because lesbian means attracted to women. If a person argues that it ALSO means “not liking penis,” the person is equating “woman” with not having a penis. And that’s misgendering, biologically gender essentialist, and transmisogynist.
p.s. it’s not lesbophobic to call out transmisogyny among cis lesbians
There is a huge difference between an individual person having individual anatomical preferences and that being attributed to a group. Orientation is about gender identity, not anatomy. For some people, it might also be about anatomy, but that is an assumption - not a requirement for the word. A woman interested in women can identify as a lesbian even if a woman she is interested in is a transwoman or if she is herself or if both of them are.
If a woman identifies as a lesbian and doesn’t have any interest in transwomen, that’s fine. That’s a personal preference. Nobody can dictate to her what she should or should not be attracted to. But it’s not related to orientation and gender identity, it’s related to features that individual finds attractive, just like having a thing for short hair or freckles or a “type” such as “tall dark and handsome” or “short and curvy” or any other preference.
There is no rule that a lesbian has to find all women attractive. There IS, however, a rule that a woman is a woman regardless of what her birth certificate might have said; if she calls herself a woman, then she is.
I am going to respond to your bolded statement, because I take issue with it. Personal preferences can be based on prejudice. It is very common for people to state preferences like “I am not attracted to black women,” when what is probably going on is the person has not yet been attracted to a black woman and believes this is because they have an innate preference against them, rather than that racism could be influencing their apparent preferences.
In the rest of the paragraph with the bolded statement, you categorize being trans as being a similar thing as having short hair or being curvy. Being trans is not a visible trait that is immediately perceptible like those other traits you categorize it with. Being a trans woman is not a visible characteristic because there are cis women who have visible characteristics considered by cis people as features of trans women—being tall, having a deeper voice, having a larger shoe size. (My mother is such a cis woman on all three counts.) Trans women as a group are not distinguishable from cis women as a group by looks. A preference against trans women as a category is not a preference based on looks, because if it were solely a preference based on looks, there would certainly be trans women of the person’s “type.”
So the statement “I am a lesbian, and I am not attracted to trans women,” is a preference statement that is most definitely based on prejudice against trans women. Unlike statements such as “I am a lesbian. I also do not want penis involved in my sexual activity”—which are an explanation of the person’s sexual organ preferences without equating a sexual organ preference with a gender preference.